Option 2 can make things worse, too. At least that is my experience. When there are no words and I can't push feelings away, the result is (for me) that I leave T feeling a lot worse because there is no release (for me) and no healing in lying there and feeling horrible and feeling alone because T is not responding because I'm not saying anything he can respond to. It happened yesterday, and it was reslly bad.

Not to say that anybody should ever be inauthentic with their T. Not at all. It's just the situation when there are no words that is not necessarily a way to healing, I think. Not for everyone.

Added: I hadn't read Rhi's post properly before posting: yes, getting stuck in the emotions is what happens with me, too easily.