Call a domestic violence hotline, shelter; get into counseling to help you decide what to do. 1 n 3 women will be physically assaulted and it all begins with verbal abuse; it is all about control.....they are excruciatingly INsecure; I stayed married for 31 years; it takes a lot of resources to get out but it can be done. Your husband more than likely will never change, so you have to protect your children. If they see/hear abuse they will more than likely marry an abuser or BE one...sad to say, but true. Boundaries by Townsend an Cloud is an excellent book and also: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans; you can probably get those at the library; they saved my life