Yes.

When I'm miserable over something I can't change, I try to reframe it in some way that makes it more tolerable.

Also, seeing the other person's perspective helps as well. Like S.p. said, the doctors and nurses aren't free agents either necessarily. They're caught in the web too. Limited by the system. Limited by their fears. Limited by their knowledge and the information/technology available to them.

We're all just kind of doing the best we can with what we've got, playing the hand we were dealt.