I've been really struggling for years with controlling my sexual urges. I'm married, and I'm attracted to women, but I sometimes have sex with men. I'm not really attracted to men, but I know I can get what I'm looking for easily. I will hook up with a dude, feel all bad about it, say I'm not gonna do it again, and inevitably do it again. I try to just masturbate, because then the thoughts of cheating go away after, but too often these thoughts take over, and I'm out doing stuff I shouldn't be doing.

I woke up this morning and the first thoughts in my head were weed and sex. My wife is calling in to work, so I don't know I'd I can stop myself from doing anything. What can I do to stop this?