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Originally Posted by NWgirl2013
His life didn't get better because you aren't in it... he is using his time to focus on himself and it is working...that's really all.
I'm sorry you are having a hard time, but I like that you want to study again. That is a positive thing.
You work at a bar but have other skills, things you can do. Perhaps if you like the idea of working in a small business, you could work towards being the manager, book keeper or something that will use your brain in a different way.
Perhaps it is time to consider moving yourself...maybe to another country...
If you want to brain storm, I can help you with that.
Also, as an aside, have you ever done any sort of skills assessment, personality test type stuff? Sometime they can be very informative in steering you toward something that would make you feel the most satisfied. Look up Meyers-Briggs to start, see what you think...
Best of luck to you  |
Thank you so much for your reply.. I recently did a test with my therapist about careers, but I will only see the results on Tuesday. It bothers me that I don't know what I want to do, I gotta stay in Ireland for another year and no matter where I go - I will need either education or experience, I have none so far, I got so lazy after this break up, when I think of starting something I have this "what is the point? are you trying to prove something?" in my head, and it is true, I am trying to prove him that I am good enough even tho I don't believe in this, his is from a big family and all his brothers have money, my family is a family of simple workers, we never big money, but my problem now is that this feeling of low self esteem is killing me, I don't feel myself interesting or attractive, I hate my job and I don't see any better future any time soon.. it is like without him I am lost, I am nothing anymore.