I am an introvert and have social anxiety. I also live in a fairly large house with a nice guest bedroom and bathroom. Over the last year, it seems more and more of my friends (who I like a lot) have started assuming they can stay over in the guest room after we have plans (dinner, going to a sporting event, etc.)

I don't mind letting people stay over if they've been drinking or if the weather is bad and driving home would be hazardous but it's gotten to the point where one of my friends just assumes she can stay over if she doesn't feel like driving back home. I like her and we are good friends, but my introverted side just NEEDS to be alone after a long day of socializing. I like knowing I can wake up in my own space without having to be "on" again when a friend is over.

Similarly, my husband's friend (who lives in another state) has contacted him a few times asking if he and his fiancee can spend the weekend at our house. Neither one of us really wants to spend an entire weekend entertaining these people, but what's the etiquette here? He likes his friend but we don't know the fiancee at all, and it's not like they can't afford a hotel! I also really don't want to spend a weekend entertaining someone I've never met.

My house isn't a hotel! Should I just take out the guest bed and say we don't have a guest room anymore? I'm honestly considering it.