_Sky:

I am thankful that you gave me a link to your post. I think it could have taken me so long to fine it that I would have given up. But I wanted to tell you that I have been impressed with the work you have done to get this forum thinking about how to resolve conflicts. Your leadership has been apparent since I came aboard. And I consider it something to be encouraged and valued.

Because of time pressures, you will see that I prefer to refer to reading material (mine and others') rather than typing here the points I make in my book. My material is just easier for me to locate, but it is not always the best material and doesn't cover all topics. So, I like the material and ideas you bring in. I'd encourage others to do likewise. Groups are best when all members are "leaders" or "teachers," I think.

So, I wondered if I had given the impression that I wanted to lead this forum when I read your last line: "Anyway, yes, I think if members wish to work on this, you are the man! " One teacher is not the best...and besides I don't have the time, especially considering I have Chapters 8, 9, and 10 to update and considering I am starting a new series of treatments for prostate cancer tomorrow morning.

I hope you and others will encourage posters to become teachers of helping skills. I'll help and give encouragement.

drclay