How do you keep a relationship balanced when you always seem to need more than you can give? It's not like I want to be that person and I always tend to avoid expressing needs or that I feel sick or am in pain until it gets to the point where I can't stand it. And I'm in pain or sick a lot, so that's kind of a problem.

I also seem to need more emotional support than they do as well. I just hate asking for support that I can probably never adequately reciprocate. It doesn't seem fair.

I really don't have much to offer at this point other than company and good conversation, but surely that doesn't cancel out my "debt".

The only way I know to keep a relationship fair to the other person is to not express needs, but then that's not fair to me I guess.