ok so, i've been dating my girlfriend for over three years now. I've even proposed and told her that we will be married some day. She accepted and agreed to wait. We're even going to start living together come late may early june. However, yesterday she said that she was wondering about maybe getting married in october... of this year. I'm trying to go back to school after a two year hiatus, along side being in a financial situation that is just barley above a hole. Now, my family found out about my proposal and for the better part of a year have been telling me things like "don't fall into a manipulative marriage" or " the wedding is easy, being married is the hard part. Now they say those things with an emotion that i can only describe as disdain for lack of a better word. Suffice it to say that even though i would follow her to the ends of the earth and know that she would do the same for me, i still find it hard to say a straight answer, being the kind of person i am with my ****ed up self, i find it hard to think that i'll be able to succeed as a husband or even reach my career goals. I need an unbiased party to help me think straight. I just don't know how to do that anymore.