Hello there,

I have been married for a year now and I have a sister in law who is married and has a 1 and a half year old daughter. Me and my husband both like our niece very much. But the problem is that I faced a lot of negativity from my sister in law throughout the one year of marriage as she lives right beside my inlaws place and drops in everytime we visit our inlaws. I never returned the same harshness to her as I was new to the family. In return my heart is filled with hatred towards her which kept piling up. I spoke to my husband about her behaviour but he refuses to believe me and thinks of her as a very good human being. Also many times whenever I raised this topic of her problems with me my husband never took my side and never believed me and we eneded up having a big fight. So I decided to burry such feelings from him.I do not blame him for that as she pretends to be very good when hes around. Now we have left our country but I still think of the things she used to do to me and still feel horribly bitter towards her and negative from within though I am miles apart from them.
My problem is that whenever my husband calls his parents and asks about his sister and her daughter I feel very angry from within. I feel he should cut off all relationship with them but have never discussed this with my husband as I know that these feelings are wrong to have. I understand that my husband loves his sister very much. But I am unable to deal with the neagtivity even when her name is mentioned or my husbands tries to enquire about their well being. How should I deal with this. Please help me as I am a very positive person and dont want to dwell on such issues and want to be unaffected by her.

Regards,
gsom