Wow, that's hard to say. It could be that he is actually trying to be a good friend by getting you to see how he thinks you come across to others.

Maybe he doesn't get all of what you have been through. I guess he's thinking that that can't be changed and it's how people respond to what they have been through that counts.

I am obviously trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

You might want to stay clear of him a few days until your anger cools a bit and he also has time to think about things. Then you could see if he is interested in going out with you for a game of pool or whatever things you have done together in the past.

speedbird, it sounds like you are dealing with a lot. I have found therapy to be very helpful in getting me to come to terms with my abusive childhood and other matters. If you have not talked to a professional, then I do encourage you to consider that possibility. Okay?