Trust your instincts! Bringing a baby into this chaotic relationship would be unfair to everyone, especially the baby. It would also mean that you would all be locked into some kind of relationship with your wife for the rest of your life, no matter what happens to your marriage.

I have known women who lie about taking birth control in order to get pregnant. Not having sex with her would be the best thing. If you must, wearing a condom every time sounds very smart, as does checking it for pin holes.

I read one of your earlier posts listing her bad behavior. None of that sounded normal to me. It sounded awful, especially the part about the passport, the face cream, etc. She sounds unwell and abusive.

If your sister or a close female friend were being treated this way by a guy, what would you suggest she do? If the husband was telling his wife that she had to stop taking her birth control pills because it made him feel emasculated and showed she wasn't committed?

Sometimes it is easier to recognize unreasonable behavior when it is happening to someone else than when it is happening to us. I wish you the best of luck in this situation.