In my most recent session, T pulled his chair up close in front of me and looked right into my eyes, and projected all this warmth and love at me and said these great things about me. Sometimes the force of his affirmation just freezes me. On the one hand, I love it, but how do I react? I felt an impulse to hug him, as I would if it were a friend saying this to me, and immediately knew that was not right. But I don't know what to do. I said nothing. What should I say in response? "Thanks?" That seems somehow inadequate and a response not appropriately matched to the magnitude of what he gave me. Aaaacckkk! At least I've gotten so I do not try to deflect his comments with an offhand, denying remark. It took me a while to get there, to accept and listen to what he was saying and projecting. It's like all that positive aimed at me is something I am not used to dealing with at all from previous figures in my life, and I have a hard time knowing how to react. I have been used to getting negative all my life, not positive. How should I respond? How do you respond when it happens to you?
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