This is a problem I have as well. However, it makes me so angry when people try and compliment me. I snapped at a friend about it recently. I also started to fly into a rage when my psychotherapist was trying to get me to come up with examples of people valuing me. I was able to stop myself thankfully, but it's something she wants to work on. I'm not looking forward to it. It just violates my self-schemas so much, that it makes me angry.

Good luck. I'm sure there are lots of us here that feel that way.