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4. You seem perfectly normal. I don't understand why you're having such difficulty following such a simple conversation.
5. People grow out of Autism/Aspergers, it's just a childhood phase.
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Originally Posted by thready85
I think these are legitimate complaints, however I think it is important to look at the motivation of who is saying it. When someone tells you that they didn't even notice and they couldn't tell you had it, you have to realize that not everyone is an expert on autism. They don't know what to look for and they are doing their best to pay you a compliment. Their way of paying you a compliment may be horribly stupid, but they just want you to know that you come across as someone who seems well adjusted, which means that you are doing something right.
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Err... I'm willing to maybe give the benefit of the doubt and consider that the motivation of 1-3 may amount to benevolence+ignorance.
Numbers four and five are pretty invalidating though.
I mean, basically four is "what the heck is your problem with this simple thing everyone else can do so easily?"
Five is "not a big deal, it was a childhood phase, dramadramadrama"- people say things like that all the time. It is not an effort to make you feel good, it is because they think ASDs ARE a phase, so not something to consider as any type of legitimate issue for anyone over the age of twelve, really.
I would say invalidating, yes.