Thank you, members for your help and personal comments. I found, when I went to my brother and sister there we were a great resource for each other...even though we didn't get into too much past, we briefly stated our support of each other now.
They are going through their pain, as much as I'm going through mine, and I found ways to help them, which helped me too.
At least, as cliche as it sounds, my dad isn't suffering anymore, and thats a releif for us.
As for my side of the family, well, I'm realizing that distance is probably the best thing, they may never accept or realize the truth, and thats too bad for them.
I can't make them, and I will never get any kind of resolution...it only makes me relive again and again the poison of beleiving that I'm somehow not a part, and somehow always the 'bad' child.
I know that isn't true, but I don't want to keep reliving that anymore.