I realized, with two losses (death) in my family this year, that I am a prime candidate target for these kinds of people...that in saturating myself with the kind of victimizing thinking that he has, I relive again and again the pain of my biological family.
That in beleiving that I somehow can "save" him, or heal him, or in other words, see him in a way that no one else can, that I re-enact the poisonous relationship of my family, making myself into a victim again.
I don't WANT to be a victim anymore, I don't want to be an "option", and I don't want to save anyone but myself.
I need to save myself from being used and that means, I need to take time to recoup-no more dating for a while. Not until I'm strong again...sad...