I have a very difficult time talking, I stutter badly, and I can't express myself in T. For years I had a T who would say "so, what do you want to talk about?" I'd shrug and he'd say things like, "well, we can just cancel today's session then". If you aren't a NON-talker, you just won't understand the silence that fills your brain. The freeze that happens as you forget everything including that note in your purse that you wanted to read.

Then I had XT, who would walk me thru things. "can you tell me more about that?" "Is it because you were _____, or am I misinterpreting" "Have you had any rough days this week? Tell me what was going on?"
It wasn't an interrogation, it was a "leading". Big difference. He also ASKED if I would email at least once a week, to help direct the sessions. Things I found hard to say I could write, then he'd ask clarifying questions about it.

Granite is artistic, she loves to write cards and stories. There are a MILLION ways to help someone to talk. Just sitting there in silence staring at them is definitely NOT one of them.

Thanks for asking CE.