Thanks guys, you have all convinced me to not give up on this situation. Maybe I am putting up unnecessary obstacles for myself. I think that this would be a lot easier if she also knew the situation and we could figure this out together. I sort of want to bring it up with her now so it doesn't become an awkward "oh by the way..." thing later. The last thing she said was that she never went by the full name and went only by the nickname. So I was just thinking of replying something like: "Oh haha that's also my mom's name". or something light like that. I just feel this would be easier if we both knew about it. What do you guys think?