If you're going to let something like this put you off then i can only see trouble ahead - there will be bigger things, much bigger things, in a relationship to deal with so you can't let a name bog you down. You just can't.

You've posted many a thread dictating different problems with the people you contact - as i've said before, you either need to work out what you really want or start looking for people outside of dating sites where things are a little more upfront. I mean if you intend to eventually meet up with the person is it really such a bad idea meeting with them properly in the first place?

I don't know how you expect her to react by telling her about the problem - she may well be understanding but if things are still pretty new i would let it slide, women don't like a lot of fuss to early on. Just saying.

Really hope you can get past this.