I'm 22. I was a virgin until I met my current bf... we only had sex about 3 weeks ago. My bf has had 4 other partners. He says they were all controlling and horrible girlfriends. He ended up dumping all of them. Him and I have made a special connection, and I just know that he's the one. He tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.. and I know he's telling me the truth. We both have ADHD.. and so we really really get one another and why we both do (what seems peculiar to other ppl) the things that we do.

I've met his extended family and he's met mine. I regularly go to family events with him and his family all really loves me. He says that he never knew what happiness was until he met me. He is an incredibly amazing, sweet, respectful, AWESOME human being! His family loves me too. My mom loves him as well (my dad.. well.. I'm his little girl.. and he'll likely always see me that way so he's taking a while to open up to him).

We have an amazing foundation for our relationship. I really want to spend the rest of my life with him.

But. But I just can't get over the fact that he's been with four other women. It disgusts me and immediately turns me off when something is brought up in our conversation about his times with them.

I've been wanting to know all about his exes... I figure if I'm going to be dating him and spending the rest of my life with him.. I'm going to be dating ALL of him.. including his past. This is also my first serious relationship.. I know you're not supposed to ask about exes though.. but I couldn't help myself.

Now I find myself jealous of people who aren't even there anymore and who he doesn't even respect and all ex gfs who he actually dumped! He says I don't even compare to them!

The thing is.. I'm really bothered because I'm also the one that usually initiates the sex. I'm the one that initiates new sexual possibilities.. I'm the one that goes with the adventurousness (when we first started dating.. he told me he was into all this kinky stuff... and just being sexually open and everything.. but when push comes to shove.. even though I'm the virgin! I'm the one that's initiating all of this).

I feel like with me initiating the sex.. it makes me somewhat less.. I don't know. I don't feel as attractive because it's like I'm the one wanting him. He reassures me all the time that I'm beautiful and everything and I just happen to beat him to the punch.. but like.. he's had other partners. This fact just won't stop bugging me. He said that I am WAAAYYY better at sex than his other gfs.. But I can't get over the fact that he's had other partners.

I know this is something I have to get over. I'm a really rational and logical person.. and I know this is kind of stupid that I'm jealous over them. I know intellectually how to get over this situation.. it's something in the past that he can't control.. but that still doesn't seem to help my jealousy.

HELP! I don't want this to plague our relationship.. I just want to get over them and I don't know how...

I was raised Roman Catholic.. that's why I had waited so long to have sex. Sex meant a lot to me. He's United.. so I understnad he didn't have the same notion about sex.. he said that he would have preferred to have waited until he met me too.. and he likes that sex means a lot to me..

just.. help me ppl... HELP! I have to get over the thought that he has slept and experienced intimate moments with four other women!!