Dear motownjonny,
i'm really sorry if i interrupt you, but i hope this will help you. Actually all those thing quite bother you. for me. If you run away from the problem, things are coming back to you. what i can suggest here is, face it. as much as you can bear it . If you face it all those things will decrease slowly. At the end it will not bother you. and somehow we are human being. we can't be perfect. so accept what you are. and slowly overcome it. it is not end of the world. trust me, i was there. Tq. hope you got idea about. thanks. Alright..

saw_q