I don't worry too much about what my husband is doing with his sexuality. He is there when I want him and respectful of me and our communication throughout the day is clear and I don't worry there are issues he would not raise with me or that I could not raise with him if either of us wanted/needed to. We allow the other person to be themselves and do their own thing while also keeping an ear out for if the other person needs us and wants our help or input or if we have a common goal we want to work on together, etc. I think looking too closely at another persons "faults" as we see them or ways of being and commenting can interrupt the flow of that person and the relationship.

I don't know what your husband may/may not be trying to do with his comments but I would talk to him about what you would like in terms of closeness (versus "fault" or what he may/may not be doing?) and let him know what makes you feel good, etc. My husband and I have a hug ritual, and nighttime going to bed ritual, etc. we have developed together. For me, when I think my husband and I are too far apart, I decide to move over closer to him; if one wants hugs, one has to give a few too, the the other person know while hugging that one likes being hugged?

I feel sorry for men truly addicted to porn/masturbation, I see it as an anxiety response and wish they did not have to feel that way.