This really isn't a matter of fault. It's a matter of time, and there is no timeline here. The person you really need to discuss this with is the trauma T. Running to that other person about it rather than directly working with the T it concerns isn't going to help the situation because it says to you, "I don't need to connect with trauma T because I have this other person over here."

Have this discussion with trauma T and ask Trauma T to work with you to find a way to feel more comfortable at least bit by bit. This DOES take time. You already know that.