What is it exactly for you to "step into someone else's shoes" For me I can define the definition but is it realistic for someone to be able to do this? Is it really that you can feel what the person feels or is it just like a definition of a thought? You can see the person hurting so you hurt too or is it defining hurt? I also mean for someone your close with as I know for myself the only thing that really ever gets to me on the outside world is only things to do with children. I guess I would like to hear from both sides (and I know I am pushing it for outside views but it is a new year). In therapy yesterday my T tried to give me an example using my sister and her screwed up marriage with about a 2-3 minute example and then she asked can you understand and I told her that the example actually aggravated me. I understand about seeing in black/white all to clear but is that really a problem? I think that society is maybe used to hearing what they want based on their own emotions. Many in return act back with the way the person showing is experiencing which is defining his or her's reflection. I am fully aware that some things I say to others is really not acceptable but in my eyes it's always what I see to be true. To many thoughts go into the process rather than the end result. At times have I purposely brought someone deeper than they already were simply because I felt the need to? Absolutely and other times the delivery was done in a different way but really is it the end result that is most important or how it's delivered? I have found that most people I have known in my life could never really "get me" and I never had a problem with that, in fact I think it was always something I really was proud of. So I act different, I can't tolerate BS and I can't act like I understand when I don't. I can't step on the other side to have compassion or act as if I care if I don't. Does this make things better or worse? I guess if we were to fit into a mold that everyone want's it would probably be pretty far off. Another thought after yesterdays session was I have never been depressed in a sense of what it is described but at the same time I can sit with zero thoughts in my mind. A big nothing going on up there. Maybe that is my depression, to close everything including thoughts out. This whole psychological thing is really nuts isn't it? Insight would be appreciated!!!!