I would like to say that looking up someone on Facebook isn't what Id call lying! It's social media and available to the masses. I'm not a fan of a completely blank slate, so marital status to me isn't a big deal. It's normal social curiosity to want to know if someone is married! Frankly the huge withholding game Ts play create the uneasiness that drives many of us to look up basic information (I'm not talking stalker-ish stuff). I would never admit to it though, and ditto on transference

On that, I haven't lied to T yet but with enough time it's bound to happen