[quote=Jake93;3525425] However, she answers text messages during our sessions. It started out not so bad. She would only look at it 2, maybe 3 times during a session. However, now she checks her phone quite frequently. She, or I, will be in the middle of speaking and she will just look at it and pick it up and start texting. This REALLY bothers me. I feel like she's not engaged at all and could care less about me or my issues. She will have to stop and think to finish her sentence or sometimes I will be talking and she will pick up the phone and I forget what I was going to say or have to think for a minute. [quote]
Extremely unprofessional, not to mention rude.
[quote]Another thing that bothers me is she will talk about an issue for a while and then it's like she runs out of things to say. There will be an uncomfortable silence and she will be like "so what else do we need to talk about today?" Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like the therapist should be able to keep things running smoothly. I am a very active participator in my sessions. [quote]
Maybe she is not a "good-enough" therapist? It sounds like you are getting something, but not enough.
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I just don't know what to do right now. I really do like her as a person, and she can give me some great knowledge and advice at times, but should I raise some of these concerns with her? The texting is the thing that bothers me the most. I see it as completely unprofessional. But I don't want to bring it up to her and seem needy or annoying. I know I pay her for her time, but I don't want her to resent me in any way or be like "oh great, here's this kid" when I have my sessions. Am I over thinking things?
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I would DEFINITELY raise these issues with her. If she does see you as needy or annoying, or resents you for bringing it up, then I say, don't walk, RUN! This is just laying the foundation for you to feel like you have to put up with less-than-adequate therapy. And you ARE paying her to do a job. What if your doctor or dentist was texting during your appointment? Or if either one of them left you feeling as if they could have done a more complete job during your appointment? I think the very fact that we hire a therapist shows that we are, in some ways, needy. That's part of the package, and it's part of their job. I wish you well.