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Originally Posted by cdnomore
Its really rare that people stay in your life forever, people coming and going is just one of those things about being alive we all have to deal with...its hard to say without knowing YOU what exactly you think you do and say that makes people go and creates losses for you.
If you are honest and that makes some people go because your principles and priorities don't mesh, then thats a healthy thing. For all involved.
If you are a jerkasaurus and people leave because you are all jagged teeth, then I guess you'd have to try harder to learn diplomacy and tact...which is another thing we all have to do being alive and all.
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Thank you for pointing out that people coming and going in my life is normal, and if people go because they don't mesh well it is healthy and good for all involved. I've not thought about it like that.
I also like what you said about diplomacy, perhaps that's also part of finding the balance and I should maybe work on getting better at that. I act very gentle, kind, and well behaved, but have also always been very non confrontational. I suppose if I was more comfortable with telling people how I felt I'd be able to figure out who I truly mesh with.
Still, I think I may be a jerkasaurus at heart. I've been working on some version of 'a good person' for as long as I can remember and I think continued work in that direction is going to end in me feeling even further away from who I really am.
I'm starting to feel like I'm asking you if it's okay for me to be a sociopath.