I dunno, the whole pop psych frasing is so easy to analyze and find similarities...in re: to sociopath.
I would hate to throw a label at you, and think it had anything to do with you at all. I was only using two extremes to give an example...how would I know anything.
I do know though, that when you try to cut and paste a personality that you think people will LIKE it only harms you in the end.
You don't really know who you are, and you don't like the you that you aren't sure you are.
It seems like you could use some introspection tools, like journaling for yourself...you could define your own what you want to be, and who you are to yourself. You could isolate your reactions and learn to understand why you do that or say that, and then you could learn how to change the things that don't work for YOU because you don't like it.
I do that, and it helps...when I didn't do it, I was constantly seeking answers to questions I didn't know from other people. I was always rebuilding the same kind of problems with every relationship.
When I started seeking the answers to what I knew my questions were I started finding them instead of hoping for it from others...