It looks to me that if you marry this guy you are setting yourself up for some major unhappiness in your life. Have you actually read what you just wrote here? From an outsiders point of view, it doesn't make any sense what-so-ever why you would want to marry a man who treats you so poorly! He is putting himself and his own feelings first... and he always will put himself first. You can not change him. Nor should you want to change him. He is who he is. Period. If you're having enough reservations about marrying this guy that you need to ask for advice here, lady, you have no business marrying him. It will NOT get any better than it is right now! After you're married he will only treat you worse.

Dan