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Originally Posted by krisakira
Interesting. I have never had a T care so much about our relationship with each other. It has been more about, "here are my problems, what can i do to fix them?" approach. Ts never really cared about my own feelings about them... is that bad? Do i have cold hearted Ts?
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There's no reason to think so, unless you experienced them as cold hearted. Different Ts have different approaches.
I don't think my T cares that much about what I think about him, as such, but to take an example from my own therapy, the fact that I'm constantly worried that he'll disapprove of me 1) makes it difficult for me to be open and honest, which impacts my therapy, and 2) tells him something about my difficulties in my real life, so it's important that he's aware of that.
I agree that if the sessions became mostly about what I think about T, or if it felt at all as if T was asking these questions in order to gratify his own ego, it would be a bit of a red flag.