i've been seeing t for close to 5 months...
and i'm only just starting to talk a little about feelings...
it is really really hard.
he keeps saying 'and you felt sad?'
or
'and you felt ashamed?'
(well, that one just popped up today after what i said last time no doubt lol)
and stuff like that...
and i try and look a little stern...
and ignore it and move on ;-)
but the point is that feelings are hard, yeah.

i don't know if other people do this...
but i think i tend to somatosise them.
i feel a 'force' inside me like a 'pressure'
but %#@&#! if i know whether that is a feeling or not...
and i feel 'pain'
and i could mime how they are reacting...
but not lable it
(and no i'm not about to mime it either...)
but it is hard, yeah.

bad bad bad...
sounds like shame to me
(((((hugs))))))
(sometimes shame can be a secondary response. one might feel angry and then feel ashamed because one thinks it is bad to feel anger)

etc.