Greetings,

I have recently been involved with a person in a whole different country. My mate, whom I love dearly, has a few mental health issues, including separation anxiety. Some of it seems to stem from childhood, where the parents separated and some severe abuse took place. My mate also has a fairly young child (below 10). She also has separation issues due to the father leaving at a young age.

I decided to visit my mate in their native country and have been here for nearly 3 weeks and I cannot extend this trip any longer without losing my job which in turn will cause me to lose my house among other things. I need to find the best way to leave without causing considerable damage. The child has had problems eating in the past but has recently had a normal appetite which may have been due to my presence - her father often fed her when she was younger. Since his absence, her eating has been generally less than normal/healthy. She is also having a hard time sleeping as the time for my departure has come soon and sooner. My mate has had far less severe problems with the mental health issues than usual since I have been around. Things get get very dark and grim when my mate has these bad mental health days and my presence is once again helping.

I need to find the best way to go back home. I intend on coming back - I actually want to move to my mates country later this year - but I just cannot do it monetarily at this time (the exchange rate is killing me!!!!). I am very tempted to leave everything in my home country behind and start fresh here but I am sure that will significantly damage our future should we decide that my home country is best for us. Not sure how to handle this.