I’m posting this thread in the hope that I can get some feedback on the laws of ‘Stalking’. What constitutes stalking, and the possible legal avenues I can take to stop this insidious intrusion.

I posted earlier in November last year, but this problem has escalated over the holiday break and I’m now at my wits end.

I feel like I’m living in prison. I am very well educated, and have very specialised technical and artistic skills….but have avoided living for the last 20+ years. I have never married, never had children, and have not had contact with my parents or sisters in over 15 years. Due to severe ‘Torture trauma’ (details withheld at this time) that I endured in my early 20’s, I now continue to suffer greatly from PTSD that has now become a major depressive illness.

This said, I had managed to steel myself against my dreadful circumstance and anxiety, and endeavoured over the years to find some kind of life by implementing coping strategies, and being forever mindful of whom I trust and let into my life. But I now find it almost impossible to leave my house, as I have an aggressive stalker living next door. This creature is a Fireman (Superintendent) 57 years old. He began by flirting with me 11 years ago, but as I rejected his advances over and over becoming more and more repressed, he turned extremely nasty. He derides me if I try to leave my house, has sent sexually explicit and threatening letters over my side wall, defecated on my doorstep…plus much more that I can’t write here. All in all, I’ve been harassed, intimidated and frightened for the last 11 years by him.

The Police have been called at least 50 times, and claim that they investigated him, but could find no strong evidence to warrant an arrest. I have since discovered that the investigating officer is a ‘drinking buddy’ of my creepy neighbour. I would dearly love to move as far away as possible from this creature. In 2005 I put my 'terrace house' on the market, estate agent was very positive as I had bought in an up and coming area. I had 3 interested parties in the first 2 months. But here's the problem.......If I ever have any visitors of any kind during the day the 'Creature' switches on a generator or some kind of machine and leans it against the 'shared' wall dividing our terraces. This causes a dreadful noise and even shakes the upstairs portion of my terrace. He has lots of nasty tricks to stop me from selling, like when I had my elderly friend visit he turned on 'pornography' I guess on his TV very very loud, then left for the day. It's sometimes loud rock music on a loop; it plays for hours and hours. One night he put a portable stereo in his ceiling, I had to listen to 'Johnny Cash' for over 70 hours. I called Police who checked my ceiling, their response was 'Why don’t you get better sound proofing' as there was nothing they could do because they claim the music is not excessively loud from the street. One of the officers said 'I like Johnny Cash' then laughed.

The 'Creature' is so invested in terrorising me that he monitors everything I do, even down to using the bathroom. Because these are '100 year old' terraces, the plumbing joins at certain junctures enabling him to hear me flush my toilet. He responds by calling out over the back wall 'was that No: 2's? then cackles at me in a deranged manner. These are only a few examples of his stalking behaviour.......There is so much more, and much much worse.

I have taken videos and recordings of the stuff he does and says, one that shows him hanging over the back wall saying 'I will never let you leave darling, I know you love me'. I have recorded these events in journals and kept the names of attending officers and event No:s. Real estate agents have made it clear that unless the invasive noise and music is addressed, no one will ever buy my property. Police think this is a big joke, one actually asked me if I had been in any kind of relationship with the 'Creature', when I denied anything of the sort he said 'Sorry I don’t believe you, there is obviously some kind of history here' Oh..My..God.

The Police claim they misplaced the first 3 original copies of these nasty letters that I handed over to them. They asked me for the originals of all 60+ letters, and the 20 others that I question being attributed to my neighbour. I refused to give the originals, and the officers became annoyed that I was only willing to give them copies saying ‘How do you expect us to do our job if your not willing to give us the evidence? ‘We can’t be expected to do much with just copies, we need the originals’. As this is the most damning evidence I have against him, I will not let them out of my possession.
The Police say that there is no way that I can prove anything and that I'm the one breaking the law by making 'vexatious' complaints, putting the reputation of a respected emergency worker into question. I’ve been warned to be very careful, as recording him is also a breach of his privacy. They say he has every right to sue me. I feel like I'm Alice living in an even darker version of Wonderland.

I’m sorry this post is so very long, but what am I going to do? I truly believe that the Police are protecting this monster. I have even thought of just leaving, letting the bank take my house. I write this in the hope that someone will be able to give me some legal advice on where I go from here. Or maybe some tips on how to stand up to him (no violence). Because of this continued harassment and reaction from the authorities, I’ve lost all my self-esteem and confidence; I can’t see my way ahead and am barely holding it together. What do you do when even the Police can’t be trusted?