Please, I ask that you do not take this as an insult but in all the other forums you post "all" the things your husband is doing or has done, have you, yourself sought out therapy? Have you considered getting any professional help to "understand" this and cope or help your husband through this? In a marriage both need to work through this kind of stuff you have mentioned in this and the other forums, it is not going to work out by it self or by going to online support groups, (you both need professional help) though they are great sources for extra info and such, the bottom line is to seek a pdoc that can work through this with both of yours co-operation.
I am wishing you lots of luck, and please feel free to come here and chat with us, I am sure the others can give you their views on this situation (forgive my mispellings) and the members here are really great to talk with
Take care and stay well,
"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON