When you say, "hurt someone" do you mean mentally, emotionally, physically? That's where I am a little confused. If you mean by calling folks in the middle of the night b/c you're having an episode, I don't think it's that bad. The "aunt" figure seems to have compassion, since she is married to a no, and can see the signs. I am newly diagnosed so take this as you may. I would get into a group therapy session or see your therapist. Maybe meds or a med change can help you out. I think we ALL understand the manic parts, they happen.