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I need to stop speculating about her potential feelings before I speculate something really off the walls and hurtful.
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It is okay imo to think about interpersonal interactions and to make an effort to discern what significant other people are thinking.
I do not believe that you will inevitably come up with, and buy into, something
off the walls and hurtful. I think that that line of thinking--that your efforts will inevitably be incorrect and hurtful--comes from your mother.
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"it sounds like LCM is able to be there for you in ways I couldn't be". And I just feel like maybe she feels like she failed or something or maybe she feels slightly uncomfortable because now she isn't the only person I'm seeing when in the past, she was all I had and I clung to her very tightly.
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Your reaction to what she said strikes me as quite plausible. It is a common pitfall for new Ts to take things personally that should not be taken personally.
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I just picked up on something
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It is often useful to develop hypotheses about what others might be thinking. These hypotheses can be acted upon but, on the other hand, often they can just be quietly stored in your mind, tested as the opportunity arises, and help develop your judgment and insight about others.