I highly doubt that's the reason your thread got less than the desired amount of responses.

You actually seem to me like the exact opposite of an emotional vampire, and I actually find myself sad and frustrated that you believe yourself to be so undeserving and unworthy.

You've made it clear that your standards where dating men are set very low, all you basically want is to feel safe and be treated like a humanbeing, anything more would be a bonus. You've also made it abundantly clear that you don't feel like you deserve to have your needs met, so emotionally you'd actually be very cheap, and not at all like a vampire. But I worry at what cost to you.

Balance is important, we all have to learn at one point or another how to strike ours. Maybe my balance looks nothing like Max's, and his looks nothing like yours, but it doesn't mean none of us have found balance.

I think that if you're hoping to copy and paste my balance, that it won't work for you, and probably seems impossible to do. But you also have to be open to new ideas and not shoot everything down because its unfamiliar or scary. Sometimes people stop talking when its clear that for whatever reason the listener refuses to listen.