No 2 people are exactly the same, so one is going to need more than the other, one is going to be more affectionate than the other, etc.

I need more emotional support than my bf does. I also need a different type of support to him. While I need a sounding board, hugs and a strong character to call me out on my bullshyt, he needs someone willing to give him space or just offer to be present when neccessary.

Yes a relationship is give and take, but goodness there shouldn't be a score card because both parties WANT to give in whatever capacity they're able to.