You are not needy. You have needs and everyone's are different. And they change all the time. Reprogram that tape that says you are needy. Tell it to shut up. RichardBrooks---another replier is right. You can't balance a relationship and if some dumb article says you can, don't read any more of it.

Balance can come from yourself so for instance, if it's a pain to stick to a special diet, go off it occasionally to be more easy going and accomodating, if it really doesn't do you harm. Which is worse? Going off the diet for one meal or living with the guilt of making others do things differently on your behalf?

Good luck!