I didn't start therapy until I was in my 30's. Being diagnosed BPD was a shock to me as I had stable relationships, didn't SI, binge, or anything like that. I'm married, have children and grandchildren. I have a master's degree. I always worked in low paying jobs in spite of my degree, so that may be due to the BPD. The T's I saw always said I was high functioning. It was primarily my attachments issues with my Ts, and family history that led to the diagnosis.