Hun, you are not over reacting at all. These other girls may have had more support and care at home and that can make a huge difference. I am sure that is what empowered my daughter to where she had boundaries that he could pick up on.

Hearing you worried about him possibly still being a threat tells me that you still are feeling much like you did when you were younger. That is because you have not been exposed to someone who can be "validating and supportive" so that you can heal, grow, and feel you have permission to "mature" too. What you have been describing is called "victim mentality". You are not alone with this either, every person who has been a victim and has not had someone stand up for them, or felt the presence of a rescuer, will develop this victim mentality.

When you did try to tell, you got the response that was unsupportive and that happens a lot too unfortunately. A very huge example of that is the Sandusky case where the college he worked for protected him, even though there were some questionable concerns about him. He had many victims and they were all afraid to "tell" until finally someone saw something and pushed until one boy did tell, then they all finally came forward and it was very hard on all of them to do so.

Unfortunately, a school can be in a difficult position because they can't do anything just on an assumption, they have to have proof. So, while they may not have reacted the way you wished, you still put an alarm out there where they will pay closer attention. Also, you can always send an anonymous letter to the school guidance counselor and even the school nurse, these people may also watch him closer too. You could even send anonymous letters to other female teachers so they are more "aware" too. However, if you do that, take a long drive to a different state so that these letters can't be traced back to you. You may even send an anonymous letter to the police too or even call child services and file an anonymous report.

I am very sorry that you didn't have the support you needed. Hun, it's not your fault no matter what you think a girl at 16 in the scenario you are describing doesn't have the life skills to really know how to handle that situation. That is exactly what these predators look for too.

While I understand that you do not have the finances to seek out a therapist right now, you should look into calling an abuse hotline and also see what support there is in your area, because there are support groups out there that are "free" and they "are" very helpful, supportive, and validating. You really are not the only one who struggles like this.

((Caring Hugs)))
OE