I'm new to Psych Central. This is my first time reaching out like this as I do not know what to think of my situtation. Please bare with me because it's a long story but I'll try to keep it short.

My bf has many of the traits of a sociopath & a narcissist but not quite because he isn't exactly unsympathetic towards others but he is extremely selfish, arrogant, very confident....nothing can knock him over. He's focused like a horse. He always asks if I love him but barely says that he loves me. He's full of affection though & we always sleep in each other's arms. He has used emotional blackmail, tantrums & to get what he wants from me. He plays tit for tat & never admits when he is wrong. He blames me for the problems in our relationship & refuses to be accountable. He loves to be the center of attention & always thinks someone is staring at him. He's very charming & has gaslights me at times to get his way.

My bf & I had a long distance relationship from 2011 to 2012. He relocated to be with me in 2012 but now has to go back to FL because of work & to take care of his child support case. He doesn't like the North or snow. He moved in with me in 2013.

During our long distance relationship, I fell in love with him because he was charming, handsome, seemed to be sincere & he was very very attentive. He would call me all the time & we'd stay on the fone for hours. He would even call me when got up to use the bathroom at nite. I fell hard & couldn't see my life with any other man. But there were also times he would turn off his fone for the weekend & that would send me into a panic. I was very worried & didn't know what was going on. He eventually told me that he had a coke addiction but we worked through it because I loved him. This went on for a year until he moved.

He moved in with me in August 2013 but was very irritable. He didn't have patience with my son or pets. He tells them to move & doesn't say excuse me. One day my son was saying his grace & my bf was started to talk. My son asked if he could be quiet while he said his grace. My bf told him to say it in his head & it didn't matter if he was talking or not. I took up for my son & aked my bf to be quiet while he said his grace. He obliged which doesn't happen too ofter. I annoyed him if I had a cold or menstral cramps etc. If I coughed or made the slightest movement in the middle of the nite, he would tell me to be quiet & has even said shut up because he has to work in the morning. He gets up to urinate in the nite & when he does, I wake up. In all honesty, he hasn't catered to me or my son at all but we've done more than enough for him. I sometimes feel as though I'm being used. Now that he's moving to Fl, he has become distant except when he wants to borrow money. He aked me to move with him but I can't at this time because of his actions. I feel saddened that he's leaving because I love him.

He's had a hard life, growing up in foster homes, abused by his adoptive parents & has been on his own since the age of 5. He raised himself. I know that can make a person tough, selfish, bitter & see the hard side of life. I'm confused. I asked that we go to therapy together..he said no because he doesn't need anyone to tell him what to do.

What do you think? I need feedback.