Wow..thanks. Yeah. I really, really want him to see a therapist with me, have asked him many times. Many friends and therapists have weighed in and said they thought he was very narcissistic and self-absorbed, but I always ignored them because 1) I thought they were biased because of me and 2) I thought he would change. He he has...somewhat. Doesn't do drugs?drink as much any more, but still ignores me. Several therapists have siad I have to stop taking on his responsibilities...but we have an international relationship, and I worry about the effect his absence will have on his kids. I am slowly learning to advocate for myself adn to stop worrying about him, but it is so, so hard. Thanks for your imput!!