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Originally Posted by Hoppery
There is no boundary that you are over stepping. Thank you for explaining it more to me. I don't actually go out right now except to my dads grave and to horse ride. This is cause people report me to the police for acting suspicious and now I am very careful when going out and about. If I buy anything in a shop, I plan to hand in notes asking if theres change or asking for what I need cause I've been escorted and stalked around by security staff out of a shop before. So I plan to totally avoid talking with them. Would the support worker make me actually talk or interact with shop staff?
And what do I expect when out and about, do they teach me things at random or is there a secret plan behind just seeming to 'be there'? What other things will they learn me? I feel like if I don't know what kind of things I should be looking out for that their doing with me, that I won't be able to learn cause knowing me I'm so socially blind that I wouldn't know its what they were trying to do.  And I don't even know where to start in a new relationship. With A. It's easy. He does the starting to talk and I chip in when needed, once I get started he mostly can't shut me up!  Although I suspect sometimes, I won't be so talkative and he'll feel like it's like getting blood out of a stone (Never understood this saying). I usually sit in silence doing jigsaws with them, only speaking to tell them that I think their piece goes over there. I don't do any kind of other talking, unless they ask me things and even then I only answer. Maybe that's why they kinda zone out and go on their phones or get in my face. Or maybe this new support worker will be all like  Oh geeze, it's like I wrote another essay. I even made that joke with A. Sorry for it being long, never intended it to be this huge!
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I don't think any support person can force you to do anything, they can only make suggestions. My knowledge is based more on what would be done with a kid, and in that case the "agenda" of the worker is not specified. But that's because kids don't often get the reason behind it. With you there may be a plan but it wouldn't be a secret. Adults should know what skill set they are working on in order to practice and hopefully make progress. There has to be a desire for progress though.
A lot of what I wrote about depends on a persons level of functioning however. You say you don't go out except to ride or see your dad. Based on that they may just be a support for you so you become more comfortable in public places, and also to help you tend to your needs. Whether or not they move onto any skill building depends on your progress and comfort level.
You should continue to think about what you want to see change in your life and how this can happen. If sounds like your doctor is supportive of this so it's great to have him as a resource.
You mention you ride. Do you ever consider asking this person to go visit the horse with you. That's something that could open up a lot of conversation.
My daughter also loves to ride. She said her horse is one of her best friends.