Candy,
If you ever think you might trigger someone then just put "Warning Trigger" in your subject line or at the beginning of your post. It is very thoughtful of you to think about triggering someone.

Speaking of that this might trigger some...

I know the name of a wonderful book called "After Silence. Rape and My Journey Back" by Nancy Venable Raine. However it does focus on a single act of rape instead of recurrent abuse, but I think it would be very helpful for you. Since I was assaulted it has been one of the few books that has really helped me. It provides an inner strength of feeling of you can survive this.
The focus of my time at college was taking classes about violence against women. A good friend of mine, who is a professor, also specializes in teaching about violence against women and she has unbelievably resources.
If you are looking for something specific to what you have experienced please feel free to either respond or drop me a private message or email. I can get you lots of wonderful information.

Stay strong,
Jessica

<font color=blue> You are in this snowglobe. It is encovered in glass and secure. But one day someone comes and shakes the globe and the pieces go flying everywhere. Now they will eventually settle but they won't be the way they were before and they can never be that way again. </font color=blue>