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Forgiveness is a tool we use to let our biggest problems in relationships drift away. My relationship went on the rocks with my father when I was 18, and now I am 25. We both still haven't forgiven each other, which has led us to a point of stagnation.
Without forgiveness the person who has wronged you, or is still doing so lives in the back of your head. Often times it creates a mental dissonance of sorts. When you are in their presences it becomes more difficult to think or be yourself. For instance, i used to use heroin and other drugs until I was 22, and because of this my father can't forgive me. On the flip side, I have had a complete hatred for him since I was young. Mandatory hair cuts. Discouraging every major I chose in college. He even called me slow on my birthday and told me I was not the same son he knew.
The point of this post is to firstly emphasis the importance of practicing forgiveness before it gets out of hand. Secondly, i wrote to this post to ask for advice on how to solve a problem with forgiveness that has taken over an important part of my life. How can I forgive a man who has criticized my every choice, and how can I get him to forgive me for making mistakes.
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