Those are some "loaded" questions.

I am having to rebuild trust with my T atm. She told me last week to tell her what I needed from her to trust her again. I told her: "Have you ever asked someone for something you need, but then wonder if they did it only because you asked or if because they really cared?" I told her it was the same thing with her. She needs to prove to me she's trustworthy through her actions not simply because she does something I ask her to do. She understood...she gave me a hug after session w/o me having to ask. Though she also knows that hug didn't solve everything.

If you don't have an answer to either of those questions, it's okay. Just be patient with yourself, and go at the pace you feel comfortable with.