I've been reflecting on my therapy over the years, I think mine has failed because mine and T's boundaries were blurred.

My t has;

- given me gifts and free sessions and accepted gifts from me.
- my sessions go over by 15/20 mins (sometimes more)
- she wanted me to teach her how to do a sport.
- she went on holiday and forgot to tell me (luckily I asked)
- she's a body psychotherapist so she touches and massages me (some bodies like BACP don't believe in touching AT all)
- she's told me she doesn't keep any notes for me.
- She sees my best friend for therapy also (against her accrediting body rules)
- telling me details about her family and neighbours
- she's raised her voice and hit a wall in frustration
- tells me her opinions (I'm selfish, should see a shaman? Shouldn't have IVF and just adopt as 'plenty of children out there', melodramatic, she didn't believe my Sui thoughts)
- when I blacked out in her office she made me food (that was a kind thing)

It makes me feel my t has a connection with me, when she doesn't.

Has your t crossed boundaries?