It could be, in some ways, age appropriate behavior, of a soon to be teenage boy. I hear you about concerns about picking up traits from your ex, and I hear you about concerns about learning to have empathy and less focus on material things.

I agree, about getting children involved with service orientated, charitable endeavors. Giving them, a sense that there's others around them and hopefully encouraging a level of empathy.

In a small moment, I took the Santa list, as wanting things that include you, as well? As in, mom, I'd love to live in a mansion with you? Maybe, he'd like finer things for you? And this was an 11 year old boys way, of wishing to give to his mom?

Sounds like you are raising a fine young man. Remember, to give yourself a pat on the back, and treat yourself, well.